Hunting The Muse

Asking The Enemy

I think this is an excellent, excellent, excellent idea. Sometimes an enemy can be so painted as "The Enemy" that the conflicts against that enemy only serve to further distance the two camps from each other. Here, they're breaking all the unsaid rules and attempting to reach out. Kudos to the people participating in this effort.

This ties in to another Basic Emotional Misunderstanding that I'd really love to see change. When someone has anger against the other and wants something to change, it too often gets translated into the anger only being expressed AT the other, as blame. The draw the choice as "express the anger at the other, or do nothing". (Protest or perish.) The alternative, of course, is to express the actual anger separately, and then seek to actually solve the problem by negotiating and finding win-win solutions. Posted by Curt at February 19, 2003 05:31 PM